And as a big sister, both to my own brother and all the kids I hire and work with on a daily basis, I feel the innate urge to warn all of my little sisters (and brothers) about what I have learned as of late.
So many of these kids are in relationships, have boyfriends and girlfriends and are navigating their adolescent years attempting to grow and figure out who they are while attached to an entirely different person. And while I do believe there are a few in the world that can do this well and flourish, many many more will fail, and lose a part of themselves before they've even had a chance to get to know it. Allowing another person into your life in a physical way is basically saying to them "I'm vulnerable, I could get hurt, but it'll be worth it," and if that's how you think about it, chances are you're gonna get hurt.
I could go on and on about my opinion of dating in High School, but I won't. Because that's not the point of this post.
The point is that REAL love does exist. The kind of love that makes you lose your appetite, the kind of love that makes you cry when you don't see the other person for a day, the kind of love that takes your breath away not just the first time you kiss, but every time, and so you have to get used to being breathless and you suddenly look at every situation in your life with a smile. The kind of love that gives you butterflies every time you see them smile, the kind of love that causes you to find yourself staring at the other person in a crowd and getting lose in the tiniest detail of their face, so you end up staring creepily and get embarrassed when someone calls you out on it. The kind of love that hits you like a boulder, and requires a couple weeks of readjustment because your view of reality has been so dramatically altered by the existence of this perfect creature in your life. The kind of love that puts you on your knees when you pray, because God is so good and perfect and loving that He's put this human down a path that met yours at the perfect time and now you can't imagine a future without this person in it.
It's real. And it's the greatest gift I've ever received. And I just HAVE to tell everyone that its worth the wait. So what if you're single, so what if you've had a dozen boyfriends and don't know how to be alone. Get to know yourself, focus on who you want to be as a person and ask God to show you all of these things, because if you do, He will. And if you feel, as I felt, that God is preparing someone for you, believe it. Cherish it. Wait for it.
I promise you it's worth the wait.